Writers, is your writers’ group doing this?
Yesterday afternoon in the Saturday-afternoon feedback group, we began talking about the ‘off with his head’ or ‘out-it-goes’ part of writing. We acknowledged that as a group we’d always been very supportive and encouraging of each others work. That was because we were all in it together. Our critiquing was not telling lies; it was from a place of open hearted acceptance. Everything you put on the page is acceptable.
Sometimes someone says, ‘I want a rigorous no-holds-barred assessment of my work.’ But what do you say to them when the writing is dull and boring? Don’t give up your day job? It doesn’t sit comfortably with most of us to be directly critical of someone’s writing. It’s like telling someone how ugly their baby is. All of us find it hard to separate our writing from ourselves, and are prone to take criticism personally.
The feedback sandwich is…
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My comment from Libby’s page:
Nothing worse than someone not saying anything or avoiding the subject all together. When I draw something I am actually impressed by and I show that artwork to someone, or put it out on social media and it gets no hits, its pretty devastating. But just with artwork, writing is subjective. People react to your work based on thier experiences in life. Someone who grew up with “a silver spoon in their mouth” will react differently from someone who has struggled financially.
So just as we have to accept criticism, we also have to be honest with ourselves and not automatically change “our” work because someone didn’t like it.
thank you so much for re-blogging this post. strangely, the comments between you and me haven’t come up on my Site, like they usually do when i click on the little bell. all very confusing. but the interactions have appeared on my emails.
There appears to be less consistency in WP than one would expect. Thanks for all your posts. They will be shared over time. 😊
thank you so much. you are a very kind and generous and intelligent blogger. good to have you on board. 🙂